How to Remove scarcity from your mindset as a Black Woman
Scarcity is the belief that there is not enough, not doing enough, not deserving to have more and to be better. We were trained to feel this way since our young age as black women, Holding this mentality leads to feelings of unworthiness, bad impulse decisions made out of fear, constant comparison to others, and mental health problems such as increased stress and anxiety.
Being raised by parents who lived paycheck-to-paycheck, coming from communities that lacked resources, going through a failing public school system, or having to compete with siblings for parental protection, love, and guidance are all examples of this type of childhood experiences and trauma.
As Black women enter adulthood, we carry both unaddressed trauma that makes the feeling of not having enough even more prevalent.
A great way to make abundance assessable to every inch of your mind without sacrificing any more of your energy is to turn your thoughts to the present moment with gratitude (and the use of what you already have). This way you can catch yourself when you’re repeating a thought that makes you feel empty, and redirect it to a feeling of gratitude for what you already. You might not have the job, or the house, or whatevs — but you do have the seeds of desire. Be grateful for that!
Another great way to make abundance assessable to every inch of your mind without hurting anyone’s feelings is to begin working, playing, and friending people who are on a higher vibration than you. You can always tell the quality of a persons vibration by the quality of their life. So start distancing yourself from ppl who make you feel bad about loving to have more money and working on your dreams, start distancing yourself from scarcity talk even with your Parents and Vibe with people who think BIG.
Set reminders both mentally and physically, you can keep reminding yourself daily to focus on the abundance in your life and not the scarcity within arms reach. Another neat hack is to carry small index cards with you throughout the day for a more convenient access to the new conversation you’re having with yourself. Use these cards multiple times per day. And remember, you are your own new cheerleader for an abundant mindset! If you don’t work on yourself, no one will do it for you. This is personal.
8 WAYS TO GET RID OF A SCARCITY MINDSET
1. Change Your Thoughts
The first step is simple, but might actually be the most difficult to implement. A change in mindset requires changes in habits and behaviors which often take time. You have to train your brain so that ultimately you believe that you are worthy of achieving more. You have to believe that you are overflowing with something that only you possess and that you have so much of this special thing that you are also able to offer it to others.
2. Ditch the Negative Self-Talk
This one is huge! Sometimes we unknowingly say things that cause us to exhibit a scarcity mindset. I’ve listed 10 of those statements above. Take a quick look at them again and then remove them from your brain! From now on, you should be reciting positive affirmations and speaking positively about yourself.
3. Allow Yourself to Dream
As we grow older, we tend to forget how to just let go and dream, because as some might say “Dreaming doesn’t pay the bills.” The inability to dream is another limitation that you may have placed on yourself. However; I’m not asking you to just dream, I’m asking you to dig deep and go a little farther than that. After you dream, take some time to actually write down the things you’ve dreamed about. Then write down ways to help you achieve that which you just dreamed of. Let’s just call these “goals.” You don’t want to write down any goals. You want to create S.M.A.R.T. goals.
4. Celebrate the Success of Others
Just because something good happens in someone else’s life doesn’t mean that you are exempt from achieving success in your life. There is more than enough success to go around. I believe that when good things happen in any of my friend’s lives, I know that something good is about to happen to/for me. So, cut it out with the jealousy and envy and learn to be happy for others who have achieved success.
5. Stop Making Excuses
Now, please understand that I’m also talking to myself when I say this. Past experiences have affected us all in different ways. Many of us have endured hardships and suffered more traumatic experiences than 10 people put together. However; we can’t let these experiences limit us, thus keeping us from reaching our destinies. We have to decide that we want more out of life, then actively work towards our “more.”
6. Cut the Comparisons
You were created to forge your own path which is different from any of the nearly 7.5 billion other people on earth. There’s a quote by Mark Twain that says “Comparison is the death of happiness.” This is so true! Comparing yourself to others steals your joy. It makes you think less of yourself. It’s never a good idea to base your self-worth on what others think of you. You limit yourself when you believe you should have what someone else has. Have you ever considered the fact that maybe it’s meant for you to have more? And that the reason you don’t possess what your friends have is because you haven’t tapped into your full potential of achieving more?
7. Change your Environment
If you only associate yourself with people who lack, then it should be no surprise why you also exhibit a scarcity mindset. Many people are often the direct result of their environment, which means that their behavior and thoughts can end up being very similar. You must make a conscious effort to place yourself in environments that can have the most positive impact on your life.
8. Declutter Your Life
Sometimes it can be difficult to get rid of things because of an emotional attachment. However; we will never be able to make room for new things if we don’t get rid of the old things. Stop holding on to the limiting belief that if we let one thing go, we might never be able to obtain bigger or better. This doesn’t just apply to stuff in your home either. You can declutter your calendar, computer, relationships, workspace, finances, and social media. By simply decluttering, you will be able to remove the existing limiting beliefs and gain clarity in areas where you previously lacked.
A scarcity mindset keeps you from living the life you were put on earth to live. It keeps you from reaching your full potential and believing that there will never be enough will always keep you from reaching your financial goals. If you are ready to change your thoughts and beliefs about money, then begin with the first step above and work your way down the list. As I’ve said before, if you believe you can, then you will! Stop looking at the glass as half empty and start seeing it as half full!
Until Next Time,